It’s a little bit more automatically defensive, which is understandable I think it was a good jumping off point into this episode to ask the question, if you are in a relationship where two people are hopefully open about seeing other people, sleeping with other people, having sexual relationships with other people, can cheating even exist? Dedeker: Well, first of all, if you’re out there listening and immediately having your feathers ruffled up, if you just go read this article, probably the outrage question that you have is answered. I wouldn’t say that it is necessarily answered satisfactorily, I think that rather than being a very well-thought-out treatise on what motivates this person and their values behind encouraging their friends to cheat. I think this is the kind of thing that would stir up a lot of ire at the same time, of course, the place that I go to is, who decided this person was the savior of their friends or the savior of making sure that their friends can access autonomy?